We can’t read their minds… Can we?
Recently, I was reading Martha Beck’s book, Steering By Starlight. In it, she talks about one of her clients that had wanted to write a book. She helped him through getting the book written, but when he submitted it for publication, all of the places he submitted it to turned it down.
She thought that he thought she was the worst coach because of that. In reality, he was so grateful for her to help him write the book and considered it one of the biggest accomplishments he ever did.
For years she let this bother her until talking with him and realizing what he really thought about her.
It’s funny that we worry over stuff like this, but it does happen.
I’ve worried over things like this before, feeling like I wasn’t giving enough to a situation, but then later accepting that the person got what they needed.
So, if you’re feeling like this right now, then here’s four arguments and one way to let it all go and release this worry to God…
1. You only have so many days to live.
If you’re 20, let’s say you’re going to live to be 90… you have 70 Christmases left to spend with your family.
If you’re 30, going with living to be 90 again, you have 60 Christmases.
If you’re 40, you have 50 Christmases.
If you’re 50, you have 40 Christmases.
If you’re 60, you have 30.
And so on. That’s however many Christmases to spend time with your family, to send Christmas cards to relatives, to celebrate and eat such good food.
And even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, put your religion in its place. It’s still the same number of years.
It doesn’t seem like a lot of time, does it?
So why spend that time worrying about what others think?
2. You can’t experience life when you’re worrying.
Have too much on your mind?
You won’t fully hear your partner say, “I love you.”
You won’t fully receive the hug your child gives you today.
You won’t fully enjoy the meal you prepared for lunch or smell the aroma of it.
You won’t fully look at the sunrise or sunset and see how beautiful it is.
These will flit across your vision, touch, taste, smell, and hearing…
…but you won’t fully connect with them in this moment.
3. You cast a hex on others.
Yes, you do.
I grew up in New Orleans… well actually right outside in Metairie, Louisiana. I heard so many things about Voodoo that I was convinced someone had cast a hex on me.
I remember reading one of those Choose Your Own Adventure books and it was about a Voodoo witch that had cast a hex on someone using the evil eye.
That’s what you’re doing when you keep worrying about what others think of you!
If it’s a particular person you’re thinking of, you keep thinking of them and thinking of them that you’re projecting these thoughts towards them that aren’t benefiting them at all!
Not only are you re-patterning your thoughts to believe that people don’t like you or think you’re “x” when you’re really “y,” but you also project those thoughts of fear and worry toward that person.
Wouldn’t you rather be sending them love, grace, and peace?
Isn’t that what you’d like to receive?
By worrying and sending worry to another person, you’re filling them up with negative energy. The kind of energy that could possibly get them sick or worse.
If the other person hasn’t learned how to defend themselves from energies directed at them, the energy you’re sending could affect them negatively.
Have you read The Intention Experiment by Lynne McTaggart?
It was the first book I read about energy. Actually, I listened to it through an audiobook. It is powerful. I was hooked on energy healing.
In the book, Lynne talks about this one experiment she did with algae and how she sent them loving energy and harmful energy. They actually knew the difference and reacted to both of the different energies.
She performed this experiment in a very high tech laboratory with equipment that would help her and her team gauge the reaction of the algae.
I tell you, the story blew me away.
And I realized at that time that I was sending hexes to people that truly caused them to be sick. I don’t think it was a coincidence.
It happened over 4 years ago. There was a lady at work that, at the time, was very difficult to work with. She would constantly roll her eyes at us. She was a senior technician and there were three of us that were beneath her.
One day she got very upset with me for something that I can’t even remember now. I remember sending her these intense thoughts of anger. I had just had my first Reiki attunement and was very in touch with energy and feeling it moving in my body.
I could feel the anger go out of my body and project towards her in this wave of energy. It was about the same as a super hero holding their palm in your direction and sending a beam of whatever sonic power they have.
Only anger did not help her. She called in sick and was out for a week.
This was a lady who thrived on rolling her eyes at us and being “above” us and getting things her way like keeping the radio station glued to one station. And she never called in sick.
I realized that I needed to control my emotions and have responsibility for the energy that I give to others. Worrying about what they thought about me wasn’t worth sending them those energies that could hurt them. Even if they thought bad of me, even if they weren’t seeing the true me, my values and my higher energies.
I knew I needed to find a way to stand in my truth and not worry about what they thought.
4. It’s harmful to you.
What you project, you get back.
It’s energy karma.
It comes back to bite you and then prove that the worrying you did was justified.
It didn’t have to be that way.
As I said earlier, you’re re-training yourself to think this way. You have to take responsibility for your thoughts.
If you worry all of the time, you’re going to cause your health to suffer.
WebMD says that excessive worry can cause a large number of health problems with interacting systems that control regular functions of your brain, heart and nerves.
Why spend your time worrying about what others think and instead live for the moment, spreading joy and love to others?
What you give, you get back.
If you’re stuck in the re-training of worrying about what others think, I have an exercise for you to do that if you stick with it, you’ll find it will help you re-train your brain to spread joy and love instead of worry.
Here’s what you can do:
Take a few pieces of paper or sticky notes.
Write down the things you worry about. Write them all down. Let them go onto the paper. Make sure nothing is still in your head. Get them all out.
Go through each of them and prove them wrong. Write down the opposite of what the worry is about.
Worry: I feel that I haven’t had enough training to give intuitive readings.
Prove it wrong: I get these feelings of knowing that are proven right. I knew the identity of a killer before it hit the news. I could see him in my mind’s eye. I knew what color shirt he had on, the color of his skin, the cut of his hair, and even his profession.
None of this was given by the news articles I read. I felt my way into the situation and the images came. I just knew. When he was arrested and later confessed, he was almost exactly as I had pictured him.
Chances are that there’s something you’re worrying about. There’s something you’re not sure of what others might think about you. Write those worries down. Prove them wrong.
If you feel that worry come back, take out the notes you just made for yourself and read them again and again, re-training your brain for success, the truth that is you.