Have you ever been around a group of people that you knew would talk about you the moment your back was turned?
It’s not a pleasant feeling.
It’s the very opposite of acceptance.
There’s two options in a situation like that. One is to leave. The other is to learn how to deal with it differently.
When the first option isn’t available as a choice, you have to go with option number two.
1. Be strong.
Never let another person or group of people bother you. If you let them inside your mind and let them label you, let them dictate who you are, you’ve just given away your power.
Stand firm in the person you are. If you’re not sure what’s great about you, it’s time to learn more about yourself.
2. Be firm.
You see good in other people and don’t talk about others. What’s the point of doing that anyway, right?
You can’t change that person unless they come to you for your help. So stand in your decision that you won’t talk about others in a negative light nor will you stand for others to talk negatively about others around you.
Try this instead: yes, I know so and so struggles with blank, but he/she has improved blank in the past few weeks. If you have an issue with him/her, I suggest that you go talk to him/her about it.
3. Stand in your strengths.
So that you don’t let things bother you, let people label you, or accept their definition of you, know your strengths.
Try this: write down five things that you are good at.
These can be in relation to work, love and relationships, and your finances or any other life area where you’re encountering the negativity.
If you’re not sure what you’re good at, then write down what you’d like to be good at, what others tell you you’re good at, or what you love to do.
This is especially useful if these people are talking about you.
4. Confront them.
Perez Hilton used to talk about Jennifer Aniston negatively. She couldn’t figure out why and got the chance to confront him about it in a parking garage one day, simply saying, “Why are you so mean?”
What else could he say to that?
I heard about this on the local radio news one day almost a year ago and it stuck in my mind because it’s true.
By confronting the person, you actually point out the fact that you know they’re talking about you and that what they’re really doing is being passive-aggressive in the situation.
By being passive-aggressive, they’re not confronting the real problem within themselves.
What that is, it depends on the person and the situation.
It really has nothing to do with you.
However, if you let yourself be a victim and accept the things they say about you, you’re not honoring yourself.
And you’re not free to be you.
How about freeing yourself today from negativity?