You know everyone thinks we’re crazy, right?
To most people, waiting for my soul mate is just not right.
Waiting isn’t getting out from behind your computer. It isn’t going out into the world and seeking that person. It isn’t putting the past behind you.
To them, a soul mate is a buzz word, a crazy spiritual thing, a person that doesn’t exist. Sure, they think, you can stay at home and “attract” your soul mate, but don’t think that really works. That’s just some crazy woo-woo talk. You can hear them saying this, right?
Go ahead and tell your family and friends that you want to visualize your soul mate and wait for them. They’ll raise their eyebrow and nicely smile at you and say, “What about that man (or woman) that you met at so and so’s house?”
Yes, they want you to settle down. Yes, they want you to love and be loved. Yes, they want you to have a family.
And they expect you to do it the way that everyone else does it.
If you want to find your soul mate, you “should” go out and date as many people as you can until you find someone that you get along with decently and that doesn’t annoy you, that has a stable job, and that dresses halfway decent and seems to be going somewhere. That’s the best you can hope for.
Or is it?
I’m a little timid to say this, but…
This gal is waiting on my soulmate
Now I am going to go stick my head in the sand and die of embarrassment if it doesn’t happen like I predicted it will.
The truth is, you can visualize your soul mate, if you are ready for it. You can ask God to let you know who this person is as you can handle it.
The problem is, most people don’t understand how to interpret what God is saying to them. They think that you pray, be content with things, and tell God what you want is the way to do it. Or they think that once you know who this person is, you just go right on up to them and it’s all supposed to happen lickety-split. That’s not how it works. Timing is important and following God. Well, you do pray, but most people can’t imagine doing anything other than that.
Well, I don’t just pray, I constantly have goals that I strive towards, and I do tell God what I want, but I also listen. And I’m working towards the creative vision. It’s not something that happens overnight.
I started with the Life Path Visualization. It’s not even just something that I do. In truth, everyone can do this. In fact, other people who were born before me came up with using visualization to put things into their future if they want them and had ideas, soul mates, business plans downloaded into their awareness from visualization or some other communication from God.
And I will let you in on the secret for $1,000,000.00.
No, really. I’ll give it to you in a heartbeat. I just did. Let me tell you about my story and why waiting on my soul mate (or your soul mate) is not stupid or crazy.
Why I Never Ever Listen to Others Ever, Ever Again
Did I stress the ever, ever part again enough?
Look, I know that everyone is doing the best they can at the time, right now, but that doesn’t mean that I have to take anyone’s advice.
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t.
It’s kind of like when you’re trying to perfect that recipe. Miss T says that if you add X, it will be the best. Then you try adding X and you think she’s crazy, how the heck does she use this stuff…
…then Mom Z says K is the what you should add and so you do it and it’s just not the right fit for your tastes…
…then you, on a hunch, try Y and it’s just right…
Well, the point is that people have opinions. Everyone has different preferences and ways of doing things. They will lean towards their preference. Then you tie in their beliefs and they lean towards their beliefs (that Granny’s recipe is the best). Their answers are filtered from wherever they get their information and learning from. Just like your answers are.
God speaks directly to you in your mind using the answers that will best suit you. It’s building a trust and connection, a relationship with Him that you find the soul mate that is the right one for you.
You build your awareness of how God communicates to you when you build the connection.
But, for me, it was different and much more painful how I realized not to listen to other people and to listen to God instead. In fact, it was more like trial and error.
I chose an abusive husband (ex now, of course).
God gave the warning signs. Plenty of red flashing lights. Yet, I wanted a family. I wanted to feel like I belonged somewhere, with someone who loved me.
He gave me attention for years, a year of dating and then we were married. Seven years later, I got out.
During that time, I sought help.
One person said I pushed his buttons.
What?!? That was my reaction, followed by me walking out of the room.
Another person said God doesn’t want me to get a divorce.
Yet another person said I’m supposed to stay in it for the kids.
What about me? What about what I wanted?
In truth, God told me to get out. He had been telling me all along.
I grew numb to what He said.
And I say this because there may be some of you that are feeling this same way right now.
So the answer is to visualize and wait, right?
*pounding fists on the table*
Yes, it’s a much greater idea than to listen to what anyone else (with all their beliefs and preferences) tells you to do, but it has a flaw in the system:
Let’s say that you are given a vision that you will meet your soul mate when he is lost for directions and knocks on your door. So then you stay at home all the time and wait for this person to show up. Meanwhile, your friends are wondering why you’ve become this crazy stay-at-home-hermit-person-who-never-goes-to-the-grocery-store-and-doesn’t-want-to-go-dancing-anymore.
How the heck will you ever buy shampoo and Nutella by doing THAT?
You may even feel like you’re accomplishing something until a big ‘ol witchie-poo like me comes along and shares that you’ve spent the last two months of your life in hermit-hood to get nothing. No rings on the doorbell, no knocks at the door. Just you sitting at home waiting, waiting, waiting and raising your anxiety level every time a car drives by. Congratulations.
And yes, I am waiting…
…however, that’s not the waiting I was talking about! To me, waiting is doing what I love and enjoy while working and earning a living.
…and while waiting is hard:
The waiting is the hardest part
Every day you see one more card
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart
The waiting is the hardest part
- Tom Petty & The Heartbreakers, The Waiting
You’re not going to love and enjoy spending all of your time at home listening for every car that drives by and hoping it is your soul mate.
So skip that. It doesn’t do anything for your energy anyway unless you have to have some alone time to yourself… and even if you do, you’re usually doing something that uplifts your energy, right?
In reality, if you’re seeking answers about your soul mate right now and want confirmation, even if you get it, you won’t “get it” until you shift the way you view yourself and what you want.
How to Dance and Rock On In the Ever-Present World of Singlehood
Or as some people affectionately call, downer loneliness.
What a downer, man.
Not really. Being single has been one of the most uplifting times for me.
Imagine you’re out at a bar with your boyfriend (or girlfriend).
Everyone is dancing and laughing and talking. And the band is playing the most rocking songs and someone comes over to your table and says, “So, you two look so great together. What have you both been up to?” Anyone around turns their eyes towards you.
Well, for awhile you’ve been growing apart, but didn’t want to admit it to each other just yet. So, there’s not much that is interesting to say. And it’s apparent to everyone there that you two are hanging on a bit too long.
Well, someone had to say it.
Or I can’t tell you how many times I heard a guy say this, “I am with my girlfriend because she keeps me warm.”
Not as in warm in the heart, but warm as in snuggled in the bed.
From there you have two choices…
Let me ask you a question though:
Is that really what you want?
A person who just wants to keep you warm? Who wants you because you’re a warm body to be near. Who is with you because you fill something they need.
What about your needs?
Have you asked yourself what YOU want?
How about wanting the person who shines their light in your soul? The person who uplifts you just by being around them. The person who makes you laugh and get this huge goofy grin on your face when you think about them. The person who tells you you’re sexy and actually takes time to spend with you.
That is why I am waiting.
I already had just anybody. I’ve dated soul mates before, but not the ideal one. I want the right one.
And sure, I still may go on dates to pass the time, but I don’t need to nor do I want to. I don’t want to because I’m not seeking that attention from anyone. I’m giving myself attention.
I’m doing what uplifts me.
Dancing. Rocking on.
Blogging. Working. Visualizing. Dreaming. Doing. Acting on hunches. Connecting. Loving. Being. Painting. Going. Creating. Writing. Eating. Sleeping. Exercising. Sharing. Intuiting. Scanning. Coaching.
That’s a lot to keep me busy.
And, I suspect, you have a lot to keep you busy while waiting.
Even if you feel you can’t, you can have fun while waiting and still move forward in life
A lot of people look to the past as their best times.
Their best times are now.
In. The. Present.
But some of us miss people in our past.
We want to bring back those times when we did this or that. We want to reconnect and relive memories each time we are together. We want things to stay the same.
But things change.
And wherever you’re at right now is the right place you need to be.
If you’re wanting to find your soul mate, you can. Not because it’s the right time to find them, but because you can know there’s hope and that even right now they are connected to you.
You can wait on the right one. You just have to keep moving forward in life, keep growing, and keep seeking God’s best life path for you.
The creative vision that’s in you and in alignment with God.
This has been my journey so far. What’s yours?